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Hello, I'm Penny. And this will tell you all you need to know about me to start with.

First polite and non-negotiable disclaimer; I have ZERO romantic or sexual attraction to men. I never have, I never will. If you are a man and I do not already know you, DO NOT MESSAGE ME OR SEND ME FRIEND REQUESTS.

I'm a rape survivor and men in general just make me very uncomfortable. This doesn't mean I hate men blindly, it just means the male friends I have were men I chose to approach, or husband/boyfriend to women I love, and took the time to earn my trust. So please, respect that boundary, if you're a man, PLEASE, don't message me.

I am polyamorous. I have more than one wife, if only one of them legally recognized. I have girlfriends. This however doesn't mean I will fuck just anyone who asks. Poly isn't about sex, it's about love. The women I give my body to get my body only because they have a piece of my heart. I may be a lesbian but I'm not a stupid or careless person, and I'm old fashioned. I don't enjoy casual sex, or sex with strangers. I am in fact Demisexual and can ONLY feel sexual attraction if a romantic connection already exists.

I wasted years of my life on empty messy one-night stands trying to fill an empty hole in my heart, and I finally learned I don't even LIKE sex, except when there's genuine affection involved. I have to, at ABSOLUTE MINIMUM, care about you as a dear and close friend before I will let you into my bed. I'm on this site to make friends first. Anything else that the future may bring, I'm happy to just let happen if it happens, and equally happy if just friends is all that ever blossoms.

In the spirit of honesty, I'm in constant chronic pain. I live with several health issues, (all genetic, nothing communicable), and every day my body is in huge pain. I cope as best as anyone can and refuse to let my health control my life, but I'm not likely to be clubbing or hitting dance floors. So I'd like to make friends who are happy with less strenuous things to do.

I absolutely LOVE to cook, and I'm damned good at everything to do with cooking except for baking. Somehow I just don't do well with cookies or other baked goods, except one. I make an awesome chocolate and peanut butter swirl cheesecake. But everything else in the kitchen I'm a Goddess with, and I LOVE having people to cook for.

I AM a paegan priestess, a Shaman of an old obscure forgotten Thracian/Celtic faith. And contrary to what certain worthless people on my block list might think, that is not a title I or anyone else appropriated for me. I didn't even WANT the role. But it's mine, so I do the best I can.

I'm very much an animal person, and I have several pets who are pretty much my children. If you hate cats or dogs or small rodents, we probably won't get along.

Again in the spirit of honesty, I'm intersexed. Most people would use the outdated term "hermaphrodite, but I dislike the word. I AM biologically, chromasomally female. I have a womb, my breasts are very real, but Mother Nature was a little drunk on the assembly line and added unwanted factory extras. I'm including this for 3 reasons.

1) I believe in total honesty, and I've gotten VERY bad reactions from people finding out after knowing me awhile.

2) Anyone who wants to pursue anything more than friends should know upfront exactly who they're pursuing. 3) I am as Nature made me and I refuse to hide from it or be ashamed about an accident of birth.

So yes, I have a penis. I am, (and I truly absolutely despise this term), a "true hermaphrodite". I'm an intersexed woman, born with what is called Ovotesticular DSD. Contrary to the belief of the MANY people who for whatever unfathomable reason fake being one as some sort of fantasy sex goddess thing, my genitals are not very fantastical.

I was born with 1 ovary, 1 testicle, a slightly larger than average clitoris that grows into a small penis when aroused. I have a uterus. And when I was born I did have a small vagina. The doctor who delivered me however decided, because my vagina was underdeveloped, and would never be able to accommodate a penis for sexual intercourse, that I'd be happier as a boy. So my vagina was surgically destroyed and sealed because a misogynist Doctor didn't think I could ever be fucked like a normal girl should. Yes, THAT was his prevailing criteria. Unfortunately he didn't know about my uterus, and he left it in. Imagine the fun of menstruating every month if the blood has nowhere to go. THAT is my life.

I am..... very awkward about talking about myself in person. It's easy to type a life history up online, but in person I never feel comfortable being the focus. Online I can chat up a storm, in person, I blend into walls. So if you're actually curious about me, ask me online, because in person I'm ridiculously shy and nervous, and I may need time to relax and open up. I'm.... well my friends and family would call me a carpet. I'm kind to a fault til I'm given reason not to be. And my needs aren't generally important to me. I exist to help others. Fran's been trying to help me be more self-assertive, and I'm not NEAR as bad as I used to be, but I still often do put other people first.

If you're still reading this and still interested, let's talk. And I do apologize if any of this came off as bitter or cynical, but I'm a blunt straightforward person. I've had a lot of grief from self-appointed shallow language police about this or that, and lots of men who don't think I mean it when I say I'm not interested, so I decided to be as blunt and straightforward as possible so there's no wiggle room for doubt or confusion.

So this is who I am, and what I'm about. I'm nice and kind to everyone I meet until given reason not to be, I don't suffer fools gladly, I often end up hurting myself helping others because I push my body way farther than it can go, and I never ask for anything. I trust way too easily and try, probably foolishly, to see the good in everyone. But I DO have a spine and you can only push me so far. Still here? Drop me a line!

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